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    Default My grandmother is such a b@@@@ vent



    We have a family reunion every year, it is my grandmothers family (her brother and their families and her and our family). It is not a big thing, more or less a bunch of old drunks talking smack about everyone. Every year she gets pissy about us "kids" bringing our children because it is not for children

    This year she told my mom she could not come because if my mom goes we will go with our kids. So I told my mom I would be staying home, I did not want to waist my saturday being misrable and being with people that did not want us there. Needless to say my mom talked us into going anyway (it was only my grandma that did not want us there). So we went to keep my mom happy lol. There was 17 of us all togeather between my family and my sisters family,brothers and their gf's ext, really pissed the old lay off Lol

    After the reunion we came back to our house and hung out for a few hours and my brother was telling me grandma was telling her brother that my Emma is "half retarded" and goes to a special school for "those type of people".........I kind of laughed it offwhen my brother told me but really????? What if Emma had heard her say those things? I am kind of upset I missed her saying this. This is coming from the b.... That disowned my cousin when he was hit by a drunk driver at 2 y/o resulting in major brain damage, he is in his 30's and she has only ever seen him a handful of times. I want to write her a letter confronting her about the way she treats people but I think my mom would kill me for it lol. I think it is so wrong she can treat others this way and get away with it.

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    Wow I'd write a letter and not worry about what anyone else thought, that is just awful!
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    I think when people get old they aren't always themselves. There are things that happen when people age that can make them act mean. I remember my grandpa in his last few years spent a lot of time watching porn and yelling at neighbourhood kids to be quiet when that just isn't the person we knew and loved growing up. I would probably let it lie and try to limit the amount of time my kids spent around her. I would also be very upset by what she said but from my point of view I haven't got any of my grandparents left and I would do anything to see my grandma again. I would try not to take anything she says seriously.

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    She also went on a rampage about my oldest dd's shoes. She has puma's and according to “grandma“ those are only for high class people not trailer trash like us

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    That is awful it would take everything in me not to call screaming. Sorry you have to deal with that.

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    Wow - she sounds awful. I'm sorry
    I would distance myself from her if I was you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MomLiz View Post
    I think when people get old they aren't always themselves. There are things that happen when people age that can make them act mean. I remember my grandpa in his last few years spent a lot of time watching porn and yelling at neighbourhood kids to be quiet when that just isn't the person we knew and loved growing up. I would probably let it lie and try to limit the amount of time my kids spent around her. I would also be very upset by what she said but from my point of view I haven't got any of my grandparents left and I would do anything to see my grandma again. I would try not to take anything she says seriously.
    She has ALWAYS been a very mean/abusive person, no one has the balls to stand up to her. Normally I would leave it be, I only have to see her once a year (my choice) but when it comes to calling my special needs dd “retarded“ within ear shot I have to draw the line and feel I NEED to stand up for HER since I am her voice and all.

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    I would call her on it and educate her about what retarded means, it isn't a slang term to be thrown around

    Sorry she is so rude and I agree you are your DD's voice and this mean old lady needs to hear it !!



    My grandmother (dads side) used to say mean things about our mom all the time , she would always say “you're just like your mother“ as an insult, finally at 13 I said, “of course I am, she is raising me and I'm proud to be like my mom“

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    Honestly I would disown her and if your mom got mad about it too damn bad she should be supporting your choice after this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kikis6kids View Post
    She has ALWAYS been a very mean/abusive person, no one has the balls to stand up to her. Normally I would leave it be, I only have to see her once a year (my choice) but when it comes to calling my special needs dd “retarded“ within ear shot I have to draw the line and feel I NEED to stand up for HER since I am her voice and all.
    I can completely understand why this would upset you. I'd probably write a letter or just talk to her in person, BUT I'd expect NO change from her if she has been this way for so long. I think instead I would just distance myself from her and feel sorry for her that she lives such a miserable life. She obviously has MAJOR self-esteem issues if she has to put everyone around her down, and to not be able to accept your cousin after his accident. If you can, change your anger towards her to pity and hopefully you'll feel better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sittingpretty View Post
    Honestly I would disown her and if your mom got mad about it too damn bad she should be supporting your choice after this.
    This..but I would write a letter first. Nothing more annoying then grandmas who think that no one can say anything to them because they are old...

    My grandma annoyed me the other day too. But she looks like a peach after reading this!

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    First I thought myself, wow, what a harsh words on your grandmother...but according what you typed, I'm just shocked about her words and behavior.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MomLiz View Post
    I think when people get old they aren't always themselves.
    Not always. I have met a couple of elderly people who were just so outright mean and nasty and certain family members who just lose their filter past a certain age. Old enough not to care how badly they hurt, they just want to say what they want to say and think they're justified because they're old.

    Don't get me wrong- elderly deserve respect and some people really are sick. Dementia isn't fun, and it's not funny. But at the same time just because you're older doesn't give you the right to be mean. It's why I don't talk to a few family members anymore.
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    Holy F**k that is horrible! I would totally write her a letter, what's the worst she can do, she's already horrible to you. Frig, I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
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    Wow.. she sounds like a peach. That is just horrible.
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