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    about meddling family inserting their opinions and judgements about choosing to home school?. seriously! DS isn't even 2 and arguments about my choice to homeschool my son are popping up. this is something I feel strongly about because of my own horrible experiences in elementary school. I want learning to be a positive experience for my son and I don't feel school is the right fit for our little family.
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    I am not on your side of the fence here, but i can say. They should leave you be.

    I have family that homeschools.
    i respect them and wish them well on their journey.
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    thank you. I guess I'm just feeling frustrated by it.
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    well, I'm on your side of the fence and I have btdt. I just stopped discussing it with family once I realized there was resistance and opinions that were not based in any kind of research or information on the issue.

    I started by saying I was not going to put my son in kindergarten because I didn't think he was ready. At this point my family knows we will make any necessary changes when and if the children wish us to or if it is no longer working for our family.

    I think people impose opinions when we create the space for it. If they know it is not an issue that they have a say in they will likely back off.

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    We don't talk about it with family that isn't supportive. If they genuinely have questions then I am very happy to answer them. But if it is just about questioning our choices and tearing them down, the topic is off-limits.

    People sometimes feel threatened when we make choices that are different then theirs and this can be where the negativity is coming from. I try not to talk about our concerns with school per say, unless I know they are supportive of homeschooling or understand the full picture of why we homeschool. I generally try to stick to why it is right for our family and the other benefits it provides.
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    the big argument is 'how will he socialize?'

    now that I've stopped taking about it they just keep assuming that he will one day go to school. I just simply don't believe in the school system. besides I've seen home schooled kids and they were grades ahead of other children their age and they loved learning. I myself (and my husband) had the love of learning beat out of me and It drives me nuts that my family who saw me through that doesn't understand where I'm coming from.
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    Quote Originally Posted by All_naturalmom View Post
    the big argument is 'how will he socialize?'
    Tell your family you are attending playgroups or you are putting him into a class with peers his age.

    If the question of his cirriculum (totally spelled that wrong) comes up then tell them to add their 2 cents AFTER he fails a test.. (not saying he will of course ) and until that time to please respect your choices.
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