Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 15 of 25
  1. #1
    Senior Member
    maddiesmom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    South London
    Posts
    1,291
    Rep Power
    106

    Default Need Serious Advice

    OK, about a year ago, I brought my kids to a home daycare. My kids were there for a couple months when I started noticing things like the kids always being inside...my daughter who was 5 at the time, started telling me that the lady would sleep and the kids would all have to be quiet. I asked the lady and she said she had hurt her back and needed to sit back on the couch for a few minutes. I tried to push it with DD and she would change her answer a bit never giving me a clear idea of whether she was sleeping or not....so I just had that gut feeling so I removed them.

    Flash Forward 8 months to today where this person came back into our mind due to a very public video. (an good news video). Anyhow, I showed it to my DD and she said ohh..."LADY's NAME used to duct tape child's name when she would put him to sleep". I was like um how did she duct tape him. ANd she said around is legs, arms feet and mouth.

    I am trying to ask her more about it. I have no idea why she said duct tape. I asked her what colour the tape was and she said white. DD is 6 now...I can't see her making this up out of the blue...

    I asked her if she would tell the police if I told them. And she said NO.

    I am soo scared if this is true...for the children in her care...

    Do I call CAS? do I call police?

  2. #2
    Expert Forum User The Ultimate London Mom! Mommy2Cuties's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    Location
    Was in London but now back in BC!
    Posts
    10,771
    Rep Power
    460

    Default

    Wow....

    I agree, she most likely isnt making this up on her own and even if she has the duct tape part wrong she still saw this lady restraining the children with SOMETHING.

    Do you know any of the other parents that had their children in her care? Could you maybe ask them if their little ones have said anything.

    I am not sure who to call but I think the police MAY not do anything without concrete proof (unfortunately) so, if I was to call someone, I would go with CAS but be worried that she may clean up her act for a bit knowing that CAS is sniffing around.

    ETA: To maybe get more info out of her, could you do it through playing? Pretend to play daycare or something and have it be nap time and really listen to what she says and does?
    Last edited by Mommy2Cuties; 04-26-2011 at 06:18 PM.
    I stole Turtle's Lollipop! xoxo

    Nicole, mama to Miss A (April 2005), Miss K (Sept 2007), Angel Baby (August 2008), and Baby A (June 2009)


  3. #3
    Expert Forum User The Ultimate London Mom!
    Mom2my2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Posts
    10,784
    Rep Power
    645

    Default

    I think I would call CAS and just see what they say.. I hope it is some kind of mistake








    “life is not measured by the breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away“

  4. #4
    Senior Member
    maddiesmom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    South London
    Posts
    1,291
    Rep Power
    106

    Default

    my daughter has been super quiet since she told me...soo is CAS open all the time or just during the day?

  5. #5
    M2M
    M2M is offline
    Expert Forum User The Ultimate London Mom!
    M2M's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2006
    Location
    london
    Posts
    23,930
    Rep Power
    1520

    Default

    I would ask the non emergency police.

  6. #6
    Junior Member Becky09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Location
    N/E London .... Play Dates Anyone in the Same area?
    Posts
    476
    Rep Power
    37

    Default

    Yikes!! I wish I could be of help, but all i can says is YIKES!
    Becky
    Engaged To A Sometimes Wonderful man,
    Mother To An Incredable Toddler, who is finally interested in the potty..yayy...
    TTC Since May2010, .

  7. #7
    Senior Member
    million$fam's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Location
    in mid chaos
    Posts
    1,713
    Rep Power
    159

    Default

    I would call CAS and the police. Im sure if you call the police they will call CAS. Kids cant make up fine details like that. I would always trust kids. It would be upsetting if this lady was investigated and it wasnt true but it would be HORRIBLE if it was and no one was called

  8. #8
    Banned

    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    purgatory :(
    Posts
    20,979
    Rep Power
    0

    Default

    I am so sorry that your DD has had some kind of bad experience, good for you for following your insinct.

    I would call CAS and ask to speak to someone or maybe the non emerge police number.

    Sorry I don't have better advice

    hugs for you and your dd.

  9. #9
    Super Moderator The Ultimate London Mom!
    Happily Ever After's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    Northwest London
    Posts
    13,651
    Rep Power
    1271

    Default

    I think you are right to follow your gut and notify someone. Better safe than sorry.
    Do you know anyone who still has their child with that provider?
    *~* The point isn't whether they lived happily ever after, the point is that they lived*~

  10. #10
    Expert Forum User
    McMommaBear's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    Whitehills
    Posts
    7,307
    Rep Power
    358

    Default

    ITA with the others. Its better to be safe than sorry. If your gut is telling you something is not right. get it checked out. if you are wrong then at least your questions have been answered

  11. #11
    Expert Forum User Hame's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2006
    Location
    Whitehills...Two blocks from my childhood home!
    Posts
    5,546
    Rep Power
    250

    Default

    Call CAS NOW!


  12. #12
    Expert Forum User The Ultimate London Mom!

    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    10,085
    Rep Power
    470

    Default

    I would call CAS and the non-emerg police number.

  13. #13
    Expert Forum User
    dashenka's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Location
    St Thomas
    Posts
    3,721
    Rep Power
    183

    Default

    I would call CAS, I think that they would have people specifically trained for these types of situations and kids that are scared to talk. I'm pretty sure that they will also tell the police, and vice versa if you tell the police, but I think it's CAS that can help y9ur DD here.

    I hope you can get to the bottom of this, and that something is done. And I hope your DD and the other kids will be ok.
    Mummy to two wonderful miracle boys

  14. #14
    Expert Forum User

    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    London.
    Posts
    7,898
    Rep Power
    508

    Default

    wow... i would be tempted to duct tape and beat the shit out of her... but for sure call cas.

  15. #15
    Expert Forum User The Ultimate London Mom!
    princess2808's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Location
    Wrapping in the Ghetto
    Posts
    22,299
    Rep Power
    1039

    Default

    How old is said child being taped? The first thing that came to mind is swaddling. I could picture a parent taping the blanket closed. That said I would call CAS or non emerg police line for more advice. Better to be safe.
    Mommy to DS Jan '06, DD July '09, DS Feb '11, DD Dec '12
    Wife to my wonderful DH of 8 years
    http://handsbetterfull.blogspot.com/

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. HELP! I need some advice...
    By Kaiden'sMommy in forum Expecting and Post Partum
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 09-20-2010, 07:57 PM
  2. None SP looking for SP advice!!!
    By Cuddlebug in forum Single Parenting
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 03-11-2009, 03:13 PM
  3. some advice please!
    By Bitter Suites in forum Chit Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 03-08-2009, 02:25 PM
  4. Advice please!
    By ~*Tiffany*~ in forum Newborns - The First Year
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 01-23-2008, 11:12 PM

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •