We only have a 2005 interm court order which states: “reasonable visitation with reasonable notice“. We do not get along at all.. there are huge communicatiuon issues that I would love to rectify but unfortunately I cannot do that alone... he needs to participate in the process and he simply doesn't.. instead he plays possum, having zero contact, not acknowleging any correspondence, thinking the passage of time “fixes things“ until he explodes again verbal abuse, then the cycle repeats itself
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My wording to her when I talked about March Break was “what would you like to do March Break“ and “is there anything you would like to do over March Break“ Yeah, I do fully realize that she may be keeping things inside from me too... I am not that naive to think otherwise... but I do know she understands I will make sure they see their father anytime they want to. I just have stopped pushing for them to see eachother... those days are over and I have told their father that point-blank. If the kids ask to see him, fine. If he asks to see them, fine. It is just now as she has gotten older that she does not always want to see him and truthfully I do not want to “make her“. I am only concerned with pushing her (in anyway) because she is so emotionally fragile (diagnosed Social Anxiety Disorder & Adjustment Disorder by a psychiatrist). If it weren't for the surrounding circumstances.. (ie her emotional state as one) I would simply tell her she is going unless she tells her father otherwise. I have done that in the past. Yeah, anytime the kids have ever been with their dad which has been a maximum 3 time a year
, I do play it up in a positive light to them big time! Like I've always said... seeing your parents should always be a good thing (I just wish that were the reality).