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    Question Speech help

    I was asked to say something about my cousin tomorrow at the service.

    I need to know what you like to hear when you go to one of these, and is it appropriate to make people laugh?

    I am a cry baby, and it will be a very sad day, How do I hold back the tears?

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    It's OK if you cry - funerals are sad.
    It's also OK to reminisce about happier times. To talk about things that will make people laugh through their tears is just another way to remember and miss someone.

    There are no rules - just say what's in your heart.

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    I don't want to go up there and get verbal diarrhea and be incohearent between the breathing and crying.

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    i agree. speak from your heart.. feel free to talk about the good times.. those are what ppl want to remember. and yes its OK to laugh. im sure that your cousin would have agreed as well.. celebrate his life.. the wonderful things.. and maybe not so nice . if ykwim.. hearing those makes ppl go o really.. LOL.. it can sometimes help to relelieve the pain as well.. write little sentences down.. if that helps..although some ppl always say look up at the 'audience'.. that one is up to you and your comfort level.. if you think looking up and seeing faces will 'set you off' just pick something neutral to look at .. and then take some deep breathes while doing it.. if you cry.. thats OK too.. really..

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    I am a great public speaker, and I feel confident in what I have written down. I am going to try and convince myself its not a funeral, just some other event that all my family are at.

    I am still debating whether or not I am going to look at the crowd or if I am going to just read from my paper.

    I am fine reading it right now to people, but I don't know that in the situation tomorrow that I will be able to.

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    I gave the eulogy at my FIL's funeral..hardest thing I have ever done...but as I looked out at everyone, it was easier. I made them laugh, cry and then more laughing...You will do great....just think of what your cousin would want and if you shared a special bond with him, the words will just flow.....I will be thinking of you on Friday Alicia!!! (((HUGS)))

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    I agree. Speak from your heart. Keep it short and sweet to avoid having problems while you're up there. A cute or funny reminiscent story is appreciated and makes ppl feel more at ease and may even get some ppl to crack a smile.

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    Could I PM someone what I have written down? I wan to make sure its okay.

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    If you are stuck, this was read at a funeral I went to a few years ago and it really touched everyone:

    http://www.katdowney.com/upload/KatD..._Dash_Poem.pdf
    THANK YOU TO EVERYONE-WE WON! -BIG LM'S HUGS!!!
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