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    Default trying to TTC, but DH is not getting on with the program!

    We are trying to TTC...this is our 4th month trying after a M/C and so far nothing. I am using those OP sticks and I know when the time is right, but getting DH to get on with it is another story. He is either too tired, or doesn't want to or it is too often or too much pressure or whatever. Interestingly he is much more interested at the end of the month when I am quite sure that I can't get pregnant. I just wish that I could say..OK, now is the time, and he'd do it. That whole thing about having sex for three days after the LH surge on the stick would be so much easier if my DH actually didn't mind having sex for 3 days straight. He doesn't want it to be goal oriented sex and I totally understand, but I don't really have time to just let it happen. I am already 35 and with 3 M/C under my belt, I'd like to try for a baby ASAP while I think I still can conceive. Just a bit of a rant, sorry. Had to get frustrations out!

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    Is it possible to keep him in the dark a bit about your cycle? Do you regularly initiate sex? Can you start initiating it throughout the month rather then when you are just fertile?

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    Quote Originally Posted by a_bun_in_the_oven View Post
    Is it possible to keep him in the dark a bit about your cycle? Do you regularly initiate sex? Can you start initiating it throughout the month rather then when you are just fertile?
    This is what I did, when TTC. If they feel like they're under pressure, sometimes it just won't work. Keep him out of the loop when it comes to your fertile time





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    Quote Originally Posted by a_bun_in_the_oven View Post
    Is it possible to keep him in the dark a bit about your cycle? Do you regularly initiate sex? Can you start initiating it throughout the month rather then when you are just fertile?
    i agree. i think thats a good idea.

    ttc can be a lot of pressure for everyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by a_bun_in_the_oven View Post
    Is it possible to keep him in the dark a bit about your cycle? Do you regularly initiate sex? Can you start initiating it throughout the month rather then when you are just fertile?

    thats what i did, dh had no clue when there was the chance.

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