Can someone tell me....

[Jessica]

Who's tired of my whiney threads?? Hehe
no seriously, if I don't want to do CIO. And no cry sleep solution doesn't work because she is one persistant child ( like her daddy) what's my alternative??? Sleep dep until she's ready to sleep? How long can that take? 2-3-4 yeas?!?!?!?

I have no help at night, my nipples are raw and I don't function on a decent level. And all I have is to ***** to you guys and I'm sure you're getting sick of it. Some nights are great, a lot are not.

I've tried a whole bunch of different techniques and nothing. Even ended with both of us crying for... Get ready for it...4 straight hours. Two nights running.

I'm going to take her to he walk in tonight ( doc on vacation again) to rule out anything irritating her.

So what do I do? And sorry for the repeat thread I just alone in this so help a girl out

o also why is it when you're most likely to hand them over to gypsys hey act up the most??? Hehe

[Tan5kids]

ohhh sleep deprivation is so tough.

I think taking her in to get checked out is a good idea.

I don't know what you have already tried. but with my kids. A steady routine was a good start. Supper, walk, quiet play,bath, snuggle, story bed .

I hope someone has some other ideas, sorry you are feeling sleep deprived... that sucks.

[Jessica]

Every night we do dinner bath story nurse sleep. She goes to sleep like a champ ( thank goodness) it's staying there that we're having issues with. I'm on the verge of letting her CIO but I suspect from past experience she'd be too stubborn for that.

I'm screwed aren't I??

Sorry feeling defeated

[Jodie]

Do you have a routine for when she wakes through the night as well? It might take a few nights but once she gets used to what happens when she wakes at night she should be able to fall back to sleep just like when she goes to bed in the evening.

[Geomamma]

You're not alone. Hugs.

Can I help? Would you like to bring her over sometime and you can crash for a few hours?

Our guy isn't doing well with the nightweaning either. I don't really know what to do.

[Jessica]

Maybe we can commiserate some time

[/wasn't me/]

what is your routine at night when she wakes up. my dd sleeps like a champ most nights, and I don't know whether to attribute that to something we did right or her just being an awesome baby. whenever she wakes up, I never turn on the lights, unless its an emergency like she puked in bed or something, otherwise everything is done in the dark (hallway light turned on) when she was a newborn I used to turn on the lights, change her bum, nurse, etc. by the time I was done she was wide awake once we started doing everything in the dark she didn't even properly wake up. later on I even stopped changing her at night, so she now only nurses and is out again. she also has a favourite toy that she always sleeps with and if its not there she won't fall asleep. see if you can find/create something like that too, but then you might be in trouble later on if she looses it and you don't have extras. that's my greatest fear as we take this toy to and from day care every single day.

[Jessica]

We nurse to sleep, no moving no talking no lights sometimes she just wakes up sometimes sge chomps on the boob like it gum causing me to have to pull her off and give it a rest for a few causing her to wake. Led to the nightweaning leading to the fiasco of this week. She wakes every hour some nights ohers she sleeps for 4 it's a gamble every night.

[Jessica]

Maybe I'm just being unrealistic? Maybe I'm listening to dh and reading other ppls stuff thinking that my dd should be sleeping. Our really bad nits are ones where I try to do something about the wakings. Maybe it's like labour, if I just accept it and relax into it it'll come haha


Seriously reaching here

[Mum09and11]

Not sure how old your LO is?
I have had a lot of sleep issues here, and now at 10 months it's getting better. Have you tried feeding more during the day? NOT feeding at night or feeding less at night? does she get up when you lay her down? I find if DS keeps getting up I keep laying him down and he gives up and falls back asleep.

[hinagal]

oh that sucks for you!! that is so hard
will she sleep in a sling? or on you? even just for a week to get your sleep caught up so you can function better and not feel quite so fragile?

[allie27]

I don't know how old you LO is but mine is almost 17 months and doesn't sleep through the night. We don't give her a bottle at night anymore but she is generally up four to five times. At around 11 she needs her soother, then around 1 the same thing around 3-3:30 she is generally up and that is when the fun starts, usually have to get her out of bed and rock her cuddle her, might be lucky enough to get her back to sleep or put her back in her bed fussing, but not crying that can sometimes go on until around 4 or 4:30 then she will go to sleep only to wake at 5:30 or 6. sometimes at the 6 I can get her to go back to sleep until around 7 sometimes not. She will only nap for around an hour to an hour and a half in the morning and in the afternoon she is miserable cause she is so tired but no nap. I am hoping that she will be a good sleeper by the time she is in college.

[rootedngrounded]

don't know what to tell ya.
my little guy is still up usually 3 times a night, and it MUST be me to nurse him quick and put him down. he recently learned to stay up a little longer or wake for the day a little early, too. lovely.

I say “this is a phase“ and this shall pass. It's hard to believe at 3 a.m. though.

Other times I try this mental technique: when he is being super cute, and we're having a wonderful family moment, I take a mental picture, so I can remember it - and my feelings of love - when I'm wanting so badly to smother him or do something awful when he cries at 3 a.m.

dunno what will work for you, but that helps me. a bit.

[jenelen]

I don't know if you've tried this, but maybe a gentle but firm nightweaning method would work for you? DS's sleep really improved once he knew I wouldn't be nursing him at night anymore. You can do it the gentle way (Changing The Sleep Pattern In The Family Bed) or you can do a ferber method. I did both (gentle method at 11 mos, modified ferber at 14 months) and I found the controlled crying actually easier on us because there was less crying overall and it took less time. But maybe the gentle nightweaning we started with primed my DS to respond well to the ferber method. Also, my DS never cried for more than 20 mins I'm not sure I could've handled much more.
FWIW, even after I nightweaned DS he still woke up a couple times a night for another 4-5 months. He only required a quick kiss on the forehead so it was way easier on me, but still, even with intervention he didn't 'sleep through the night' without any waking consistently until 19 months.

[Jessica]

thanks for he link jenelin. I tried that one and a wee bit of Ferber. She is stubborn and very persistant. It went to a 4 hour cry fest sigh. it's okay I think I've come to terms with thugs. Haha ask me again at 3 in the morning