Your Ex's "Other Half"

[Tanya-Mae]

I'm jealous... That is the way I believe it should be... I wish it could be that way with my ex!

[sweetsteps]

Originally Posted by Renosiris

The G.F that my ex had previously didn't last long, and that is a good thing too. She was extremely unrealistic about the relationship that my ex and I have, and must maintain, for the sake of our children. I think she was very naive about the fact that two people with children are going to be tied together for the rest of their lives. It was obvious that if he had of stayed with her there were going to be enormous problems very fast.
My ex's current G.F is great. Not just in who she is, but also in that she understands the fact that while my ex and I are still good friends. Ex and I still call each other with jokes, and stupid crap we've pulled that day, and she isn't threatened by us doing so. She understands that being friends is possible for us, but a relationship again is not. My boyfriend and I, and my ex and his gf get together several times a year. We all are able to laugh and have a good time together. Infact, all of us have sort of made our own version of a very weird/warped family lol. I don't know that this situation wouldn't have come to pass if we all didn't work hard to make it that way. I think each of us (and the children), understand that we need to stick together and be united, taking care of one another, and they definately understand we all love them. It had also been nice to include their daughter, my son's half sister, in things we do as a “weirdo“ family since her arrival. My oldest has started on occasion to refer to my ex's Girlfriend as Mommy H (her first initial), and I think it is great. I actually find it odd that parents feel any sort of resentment over the idea of another person being called mom other than themselves. Calling someone your mother denotes a certain amount of affection and trust, and I'm glad that he feels comfortable enough with her to indicate that to me.
I'm very lucky, and I don't take it for granted.

Can you be my DF's ex...would make life so much easier for us....its so nice to hear how people can retain a great friendship even though a relationship didn't work out. Yay!!!

[Brayden's Mommy]

man i wish it was like that for me too!! so tired of being left out! i mean really isn't it about time we all act like adults and do what's best for everyone...not just what is good for one person...but guess people aren't always like that!

[hockeymomof3]

Originally Posted by amyunicorn

What a wonderful situation!! Good for you!

Yes I think so too, not “weird“ at all. I wish I could have this type of relationship with my ex too. We did at the beginning, then he got really jealous when I moved on. And it doesn't help that his mom won't keep her nose out of our buisness.

[Renosiris]

Yes, we're pretty lucky in this regard, but I don't think that it has always been easy. I'm sure there are times when we likely all want to kill one another, but we get over things pretty quickly.

In regards to ex-mil's well....haha....I won't even go there because there isn't enough e-space in the e-universe to tackle that one.

[hockeymomof3]

Originally Posted by Renosiris

Yes, we're pretty lucky in this regard, but I don't think that it has always been easy. I'm sure there are times when we likely all want to kill one another, but we get over things pretty quickly.

In regards to ex-mil's well....haha....I won't even go there because there isn't enough e-space in the e-universe to tackle that one.

Lol!!!

[Brayden's Mommy]

Originally Posted by Renosiris

Yes, we're pretty lucky in this regard, but I don't think that it has always been easy. I'm sure there are times when we likely all want to kill one another, but we get over things pretty quickly.

In regards to ex-mil's well....haha....I won't even go there because there isn't enough e-space in the e-universe to tackle that one.

HAHA

[Shellie]

hmmmm....
my exs first wife got my house and all my savings after 20 years....so I hope they both rot personally.

For 20 years I paid her child support...and she waited til my SD came of age and ransaked my ex. he fought for thier daughter and gave the ghost to mine.

Id love to tell his next gf...or treat of the week, he is an abusive, amnipulative self serving bugger....but they never stick around long enough.

[Mama-B]

My Dh and his Ex HATE each other... or at least that's the way it shows. I think it all stems down to her hating me.
We have a long story.. I was her friend, she dated DH for 5 years and had his baby because their relationship was falling apart and she thought it would fix things...
She cheated on him (several times, while he worked crazy hrs and/or slept upstairs)..
She would go out to the bars every single night, they never spent any time together. He would have to look after their DD after working a 12 hr shift (which was located 2 hrs away from their home.. all because she was “lonely“ in the new city and HAD to move back), he would have to cook supper, bathe their DD and put her to bed every night- and then clean the house too! He worked his butt off for them.. he really did.
Anyway.. him and I became good friends throughout it all, and through their separation... her and I drifted apart because we had different values. We were really young at the time, just turned 19 so back then it was all fun and games for her. She ended up moving out and getting her own place, taking the baby with her. Him and I grew closer and closer. It was never intended but we eventually did fall in love...
She resents me for that to this day (almost like I intentionally did it to hurt her)... and I think that affects the whole scenario... I have tried so hard to make things work and she just makes it difficult. I can't really say I blame her.. I wouldn't want a friend to marry my ex either.. but get over it already! it's literally been 6 years! 6 VERY long years!
We only get Step DD EOW, and she tries to say that all she does is give, give give and make sacrifices.
She puts my step dd in the middle of it all and that's sooo not fair!

She so jealous of everything we do, she interrogates Step DD after she's been at our house and tries to make us look like horrible people.
One can only hope that one day Step DD realizes it!

[Old gal]

Under other circumstances I could see being friends with my ex's new wife. She's a very nice person and spoils him, (which is what he expects). My girls visit them and get along fine now but it was rough when we first split in '98 - had a restraining order against him for a couple of years and our DDs were afraid of him when they were younger. It's certainly easier to get along now and his wife makes my girls and their partners welcome.