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    Default "i'm broke because of you". VENT

    ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME ?!?!?!
    Ughhhhhh, I can not stand ds's father.

    I simply asked him if he has made any payments to FRO, because I have not recieved anything for the last 2 months.
    His response was: "I'm broke because of you, stop harassing me. Leave me alone."

    Are you serious?? Really??

    You're broke because you decided to put your hands around my throat and threaten to kill me in the first place.

    You're broke because you would not leave and stay out of my life when given the chance. Instead, you threatened to take ds away from me, threatened to hurt me, threatened to make my life hell.

    You're broke because instead of facing the consequences for your actions you hired a big time lawyer and lied out of your ass the entire trial.

    You're broke because you have a gambling addiction which stupid, naive me came to realize after three years of being with you.

    You're broke because you decided to take a trip to Vegas on ds's birthday instead of being with him.

    I DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR YOU.
    GROW SOME BALLS AND FACE THE CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR ACTIONS YOU USELESS WASTE OF EXISTENCE!

    Seriously, can someone please tell me how ANY of this is my fault?

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    It isn't. Don't beat yourself up over it. ~hugs~

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    It isn't hun! he just needs a few years of growing up to do. Hugs!

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    You have to know it's in no way your fault! ((hugs)), mama. He sounds like a real winner.

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    I'm so glad you are not with a guy like that anymore. You and your little guy deserve so much more.
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    None of it is your fault.

    What a loser he sounds like.

    You are much better off without him

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    You KNOW its not your fault so forget that all together.

    Call FRO and wait in 'sequence' for as long as it takes and ask them when the last payment was received due to you not receiving anything in 2 months. I've had to do this and the issue was at FRO's end. If its not with them, they may give you suggestions on what to do then. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tan5kids View Post
    None of it is your fault.

    What a loser he sounds like.

    You are much better off without him
    Agreed. Hugs.

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    I will tell you what is your fault - your beating yourself up! You are a great mom, doing the absolute best you can for yourself and your adorable son. It would be a perfect world if all the deadbeat dads (and moms in somecases) got off their buts and did what they were supposed to do! Unfortunately we are not living in a perfect world. So hug ds a bunch more and appreciate what an awesome angel you got out of such a horrible arrangement!
    Big Hugs to you!

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    I would rat him out to his mom....lol

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    I have contact FRO, they said the only payment that they have recieved was $80 on November 3rd. He says he's been paying $80 bi-weekly, so where is the other $240?
    They are trying to get in contact with his employer and I'm supposed to phone back Thursday. gah, at least there's some direction now. and once again, confirmed that he is a lying sack of $%@#

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    I hope you get the money soon.
    What a jerk! argh.

    It's not your fault, we've all made mistakes of trusting the wrong people or thinking they'll change and stuff like that. All that really matters now is that you're stable and consistent and loving in your child's life, and you don't let this kind of stress affect you to the point it affects him.
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    As much as its a pain in waiting for FRO to 'find out', they have a lot more mussle in getting the money from your ex & employer than you do. I do know that most employers send a lump sum for the month and not weekly, even though they show that they are taking weekly payments from his cheque, but that still doesn't say why you receiving payment is behind.

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    I am so sorry you've had to go through this. That's just horrible and definitely not your fault.

    I'm sorry he put YOU in the position of having to do that. I'm sorry that he isn't taking accountability for his actions.

    You must be so frustrated
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    Wow, sorry you have to deal with someone like this, it is certainly not YOUR fault!

    You must be thankful that you are no longer with him.

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