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    Default seperation anxiety

    talk to me....who? why? how long? what did you do?

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    Its usually right around the one year mark and I think it can last awhile, depending on the baby. DS used to get really upset when I would leave him at the playroom at the gym around then, but once I was out of site (hovering just outside the door) he was fine in about 3-5 minutes.
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    she screams when i go to the bathroom and she's with her dad. she won't sleep by herself right now. i mean wakes from a dead sleep and screeches...i'm shackled here LOL

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    ah, well he wasn't that bad and well K was so fussy for the first year I probably never noticed!

    I got the whole little speech from my mom tonight that L should be sleeping through the night by now and she's not because I'm feeding on demand. I pointed out that it makes sense to feed when they're hungry not when they aren't!

    Ummm, sorry totally off topic, but I haven't had a good rant walk in months!
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    DD2 went through it for nearly 6 weeks in September-October. Not always horrible, but fairly constant. She was 15-16mo. We had a new nanny, I had just weaned her a couple weeks earlier, and were going through the whole thing about DS at the time. I think she just felt all the changes.

    She just wanted to be with me and only me 24/7. Cried when I left, attacked me when I came home. Making dinner was a disaster - she'd sit at my feet and sob until I picked her up. Got mad if I sat with DD1, was furious if DH tried to pick her up. There was no privacy in the bathroom! She went anywhere I went or screamed at the door until I returned. Sleeping was okay though. I had to put her to bed and we did a lot of snuggling.

    She's fine now. Likes the new nanny, will share me with DD1. Even goes to DH if I'm busy.

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    aidensmom yeah i get that speech every so often. we'll plan a walk soon.

    sounds like yours had a reason, turtle. this is out of the blue. but it ends right?

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    aidensmom yeah i get that speech every so often. we'll plan a walk soon.

    sounds like yours had a reason, turtle. this is out of the blue. but it ends right?
    Yeah, it ends She won't be begging you to come on dates with her or anything! FWIW, I think most babies go through it around 1yo when mom's go back to work. I think I recall DD1 doing it around 9mos though. Not sure what was going on then. Looking back, I can see all of why DD2 may have been going through it, but at the time I was oblivious!

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    weird. no working here . yeah dh is convinced she is going to become a world travelling journalist who needs her mommy to sleep and nurse

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    It was more me (still is) who has the separation anxiety! lol

    DD is only starting to reciprocate and she's nearly 2. It was Daddy who she hated to leave before.

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    aaaaaaaaaawwww...although right now i'd love that, i need 10 minutes to myself!

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    Well it could also be the teeth and just feeling crummy. DD#1 was under the weather for about 2 weeks and I didn't think we were going to make it. Soooo clingy and whiney and I had to sneak out of the house if I was going somewhere without her and usually just gave in and brought her with me.

    So far dd#2 hasn't reached this stage, but I won't be surprised when she does since dh seems mystified about what to do. Seriously, she was in the bassinet in our room, dh went to bed really early, I'm watching tv downstairs and hear this thud thud, put the tv on mute and realize the baby is crying, go up there, dh is hanging over the bed trying to shove the soother in her mouth and apparently thumped on the floor to get my attention, cause you know picking her up or something would just be a CRAZY idea!

    Ummm, sorry, that rant thing again.
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    Seperation Anxiety tells you that you did a good job as a Mommy That you formed an attachment with your child. At least thats what I tell myself, lol. So, I give a heart felt good bye and walk out the door. Taking a big deep breath as I step over the threshhold. Good luck, this one is hard.

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    aaww...thanks hopefloats. i think i needed to hear that

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    Aden was particularly clingy with molars and eye teeth coming in.
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    OMG, I was just thinking of this thread today. The last couple days DD2 has been attached to me again. I thought it had passed, but nope. From the second I walk in the door until she falls asleep, she's fighting for me to be holding her. Not wrapped, not tied, not slung, just held with 2 arms.

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