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    Question tips to help new mums RELAX and sleep

    Hi ladies - hoping for some wisdom from those more experienced..

    So my newborn Charlie is a pretty good sleeper most of the time. The problem is me. He's 19 days old and I try to sleep when he sleeps but I find it hard to relax - especially during the night. Either my mind races or I lay awake waiting to hear him fuss or cry. Argh! Does this pass? I know I probably won't sleep as deeply as before baby but falling asleep is sometimes such a struggle, despite being tired.

    Any tips for how to help me chill out and sleep?

    Thanks in advance!

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    The intensity of it will pass.

    If you need to peek in on him to be reassured then do it.

    Before you lay down tell yourself how happy/comfy/safe he is.
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    I was the same. I laid awake in anticipation of what was to come. Maybe have a bath before bed and try to wind down a bit. Sleep eventually comes because you get so tired that you need to rest. Good luck.

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    When you can, have someone look after him & nap. That way they can listen for him & you can conk out entirely.
    I also have a baby monitor that goes beside my bed, that way I am sure I won't miss her.
    It really does pass the older he gets.
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    I found myself sleeping, but still awake for a long time, if that makes any sense. For me, the only thing that works if having them wherever I am when they are small. If I'm in front the tv, I have them sleeping in a basinette, or wherever, right beside me. Then I doze off until they wake again. Moniters never work for me, I am forever putting the thing to my ear, not sure if it's working, then end up going to check anyway lol.

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    Thanks! - I knew I could count on LM to help me see I'm not crazy.

    We tried co-sleeping as well as a bassinet in our room beside the bed. It's fine for naps but in the night he seems to sleep more soundly in his crib. I have a good monitor and I'm learning to trust it - plus his room is so close I can hear him without the monitor - lol.

    I usually go to sleep early with my hubby spending time with Charlie. A warm bath is a good idea.

    Glad to hear this is a new mum phase and that my neurosis will fade as he gets older.

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    I was horrible with dd. I just couldn't relax. Dh would spend time on the couch with the monitor and that helped. Just knowing that he was listening to her was enough for me to get a little bit of a deep sleep.

    Also, a beer in the evening worked like a charm.
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    I was the exact same way with my first. Actually developed a bad case of insomnia b/c I was so overtired. You can buy this stuff called Rescue Remedy. I think they sell it in the “natural“ section at the Superstore. It will not make you sleep, but acts as a relaxer. Just put a couple of drops on your tongue and then try to sleep. It does not make it hard for you to wake up or anything b/c it is not a sleeping pill...so don't worry about that.

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    The best thing that helps me sleep is when I go to bed early, and have my DH take the monitors. I can trust him that he will wake me to feed the baby when needed, but that someone else is listening for them.

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    This will get much better as babe gets older! I totally remember Matthew newborn fog. lol ! You're SOOO tired, but just can't relax and sleep!

    Maybe a warm cup of milk, a cup of tea might help settle you enough to get some sleep?

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