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    My husband and I have recently separated (about a month ago now). I thought the girls were adjusting well (I am sure they still are). I know all of this is new and will take time to work out. This morning my youngest daughter came to me asked why we can't all live together as a family anymore. She says she likes living together and misses Daddy.

    I told her that right now Mommy and Daddy have some things they need to work on and can't live together. I told her that both her Dad and I love her the same way we did before we separated. It just breaks my heart to hear.

    I know being apart is definitely for the best. I just wish they weren't hurting. It's hard to know that we are what is causing her pain and upset.
    Andrea - Mommy to two beautiful girls.

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    Get them into a program called Moms house/dad's house at merry mount. You can go to the On my own program, both are free and really helped me and my kids.
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    Big hugs. It has been 2 months for me and I understand.

    We have set it up as temporary (ie no finances split and still trying to work things out) but we haven't told DD that as we don't want to disappoint her if it doesn't work out. She seems like she is adjusting well but like you, I don't know if it will hit her at some point. She is also an only child.

    I will be watching this thread
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    It is hard. It does get better but there will be times where they ask why and are sad. Its still new and will take them time. My ex and I have been split/divorced for 5 years now, and right before he was to remarried my kids still asked why can't we all live together. What you are saying and doing is the best you can do for them.
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    Hugs to you ... thinking of you and your girls.
    Granola is a Mum to 2 wonderful boys

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    My boy's and I did the Merrymount program as well, it did seem to really help them out. Just be there for your girls, listen to them, talk to them, reassure them just the way you said you did. It's hard and some days will be harder than others. Good luck to you.

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    Thank you for all of your advice and support. I will definitely look into that program.
    Andrea - Mommy to two beautiful girls.

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