Just a little background...this was my post:
http://forum.londonmoms.ca/113218-my-sons-dad-took-him
My older son has lived on and off with his Dad for about 5 years. He used to beat up his younger brother and I couldn't get him to stop. His Dad was supposed to "straighten him out". It didn't work. He's always been a little snotty towards me and has acted like he loved me sometimes and resented me other times.
Fast forward to July and the younger boys Dad took him in the middle of the night. From that day forward I have had zero contact. He won't talk to me. He won't visit me. His Dad has a new GF he's been living with for the last 6 months. My son is now calling this woman Mommy on Facebook and making lovey dovey posts towards her.
I could understand it if we had some kind of fight but there was nothing. He went from being my sweet little boy to wanting NOTHING to do with me overnight.
In the days leading up to him leaving 3 days before he left I was sick and he walked down to the dollar store and bought me a box of chocolates with his own money. 2 days before he left we had a big grad party at the house for his grade 8 grad and he was having a blast. The day before he left it was Canada Day and we had a fun family BBQ and watched fireworks together. There were no signs he was planning to leave. And his attitude towards me changed overnight.
I don't know if his Dad says negative things about me. We are headed back to court to renegotiate CS and visitation. Their Dad thinks he over paid me on CS and SS. I had a friend I haven't seen in 15 years email me to tell me she ran into him and his GF and they were laughing about taking me to court and talking about how much money they're going to get from me. I have no way of knowing if they talk like that around the kids.
I do know I've been continuing to let my DD visit him because I don't think it's fair to cut her off from her Dad the way her Dad has cut me off from my boys. She came home and said her Dad said I was going to go to jail for a long time. She asked me where she will live if I go to jail. I told her she will live the same place she lives now and that I'm not going to jail.
Now on facebook my younger son is posting things about his Dads new GF being his Mommy. And she posts things on all 3 of my kids walls about her being their Mom, Mommy or Momma. I'm pretty sure they are doing this on purpose to hurt me. I've asked her to stop but she won't.
I came across a few articles on Parental Alienation Syndrome and I am 1000% sure this is what I'm dealing with. What do I do? How do I go from here. Do I just try to get court ordered visitation and force kids who don't seem to want to visit me to visit or do I prove the PAS and have them removed from their Dad's home on the basis that they are being Emotionally Abused and then get them counselling to try to de-program them? And if that's the route to go how do I prove PAS?
