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    Default Single Moms..Did you choose to be single??

    Ok so not sure I worded that right but I mean was the dad just never an option or did you decide to pick up and leave?

    I never understood staying together for the kids but now that I have kids I see how it's so hard to decide to leave when you know the dad is good to them. does that make sence?
    I love my partner very much but once and a while worry that he may just not be ready for the responsibility he signed on for , you know

    Anyways probably just a bad hormonal day for me but curious to why or how other moms decided it was right for them
    It is such a bigger decision once kids are in play
    ...and in that moment I swear we were infinite.

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    I chose (I asked him to leave). I was so miserable and it affected everything. I figured my kids were better off with two happy parents than two miserable ones. And it seems I was right!

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    I packed up and left.

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    I'm a single mama by choice, went into it single by choice, both times. My daughter's dad is a good friend of mine. The baby I am expecting was conceived via a donor. I really wanted to be a mama and didn't feel compelled to have a partner to do it.
    LondonMoms has really gone downhill, ever since they started chit chatting in the home and garden forum. There is a place for chit chat, people!!!

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    I too asked him to leave.... things were so stressful with him around and it seemed all we ever did was fight. We tried to make it work out for a really long time... but now that we are apart, things are much better!

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    I asked him to finally leave, even though he wasn't around much to be a 'father'.

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    Did I choose to be single? Hell, no. I was heartfelt in my wedding vows and put up with a lot. It took an amazing counsellor to help me see the abuse was not my fault. After a number of police calls to the house he left and I changed the locks the next day.

    Edited this... deleted a lot of unnecessary ranting.
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    I went into it knowing that at some point I would be a single mom, I can honestly admit I never saw it lasting with dd's dad I always knew that the relationship was not healthy. when I got custody I also knew it would be only a short period before the ex was gone and thats what i wanted. No I was not being one of those cut him out her life moms in my case sperm donor is an admitted child absuer

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    I was about 8 months pregnant and he left....seeing his "track record", I was subconciously (sp?) preparing myself for doing a lot on my own, but not as soon as it happened ya know? He left on a Wednesday to hang out with his son, and didn't come back for 4 days....then he was home for a couple hours and left again...for good...looking back our relationship wasn't the greatest but it wasn't bad either....we haven't talked since....

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    My baby's Daddy was never an option. I'm a single mom by choice and I'm A OK with that.
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    I didn't choose to be a single mama but when your dealing with a cracked egg you eventually say enough is enough get the beep out and I did and never looked back.



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    I don't think I choose to be a single mom. I was put in the situation after finding out my husband cheated on me so I left. I don't regret the choice I made, it was best for my 2 kids.








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    I guess I am a SM by choice, we were together on and off for a couple years then pretty much over, then found out I was epecting. I stuck in there while pregnant, even though he treated me like a bag of s#!T, for the sake of Jacob. I realize I would have been much better off without him from the start, he caused alot of stress and issues.

    Jacob is now 5 months old, and I love every minute of being a single mother to him. I think..I KNOW... I am happier and a better person without his father in my life as a partner, and even though I want what is best for my baby, that always doesn't mean having his father there 24/7. Sure its hard as hell being alone with him all the time, with no help, but I'm hoping that he will love me for it once hes older!

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    Not by choice. I believe in marriage; if you're stuck with a rough guy, that must suck. My situation was a bit different.

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